So here I am...lining up segments of the past 2 years...(as you know I am trying to quit smokes...but I have unfortunately bought a pack today and just had one... :(, I was sitting down in the dining room and puffing my life away with Spike putting on his best whining pleas on the balcony (which is just next to where the dining area is) for attention. Poor thing...I think he really needs some TLC (and also he's probably a chronic attention seeker). If a dog sees you and constantly tries to get you to show some interest in him, regardless of whether you are his owner, what more a human? My question is: "Would you expect a person to treat you in a certain way based on the inner status (as in in your heart) that you have granted them?" Would you??? And if so, why? And to what degree? Or is there such a thing as unconditional love in this day and age?
Tell me...it would be interesting to know what your thoughts are and it would really help me untangle some webs...just wanna compare notes to see if what i feel (or rather what I have led myself to believe in so far) is on the right track. Its one of those worthy of contentions once in a while...please enlighten me....
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yes we're humans and we do have feelings. wanting to be loved, cared for, attention etc, it's normal. who wouldn't. no matter how "great" of a person you are, unconditional love and all, you're still a human with feelings. Why would you want to give sooo much unconditional love? and you don't mind to be the only giver in the relationship? cause you hope one day the other person will notice your care, love etc and give you back some. Even if you're REALLY so "wai tai" to give and REALLY not receive but in your heart, you're saying, "I don't mind giving only, as long as he/she is happy because if he/she is happy, I will be happy too" ...that's not unconditional love...you're just doing it so that it makes you feel better. If that person isn't going to appreciate what you're doing to hell with it. why would you even bother. if he/she is the only person left on earth THEN MAYBE, JUST MAYBE, you might want to consider, if not I'm pretty sure there are lots of fishes in the sea, better ones and all.
yes, I've been there too, not being able to let go and crap. you'll look back one day and give yourself a slap, i gurantee you, for all the time and effort wasted. you've tried, you've done ur best, so move on. No matter how great and passionate you are, there is a limit to how much you can give. Yes giving is a joy...but giving without a reason is stupidity. To look back one day and go "Duh..." isn't something you want in your life..not worth the time wasted. you only live so long. Do all you want/can, and just move on. Knowing that you've already did your best, you won't regret that much one day when you find someone else etc.
Life is like a vacuum, it sux. But hey you can always pull the plug.
Thanks darl, you've somewhat confirmed my suspicions. I guess its human nature, we naturally form expectations without realising it most of the time...
Gal, somehow i agree with unconditional love but one have to do it rationally....
Loving someone...well i can say it can be easy as long as someone loves you the way your inner status(from that you mentioned).......
I found someone who loves me more than i love him(which i'm really glad and proud of) & i once heard him say that he will love me unconditionally if we know how to work things out. alwiz leave some room for changes & to realize how beautiful things turn out to be.
if you have love unconditionally but the other party did not treat you as what it should be...i guess the love will not work out.
YES i do want someone to love me unconditionally but if he doesn't, not his fault....juz that it could be that certain person are not meant for each other. If you agree LAH.
I can be so naive to believe that i will find my true and only love in this whole wide world....and believe it or not.....to some extend i believe i found one....*giggles*
Love,
May
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